HOW TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU

 

 How to stop worrying about what others think?

So you want to learn how to stop worrying about what others think? In this article, I will go deep into the ways you can stop worrying about what others think of you or what you do. I am going to explain everything in a simple language. I have divided everything into 5 steps and these all 5 steps are interconnected with each other. 

Read all the steps carefully because if you don't understand one step, you will not be able to understand the another. So let's dive right into it.

1. Why do you worry about what others think? 

You are worrying about what others think of you because you are a normal human being. That's it. I mean, what is a person who does not care about anything or anyone around in this world called? The person will be called a 'Psychopath'. Just think about it. If I would be a person who does not care or worry about anything or anyone, then if my friend gets hit by a car, I would say, "Oh, not my problem. Why would I care?" How evil that would be.

Caring about what other people think is what makes you a normal human being. Worrying about what other people think is responsible for friendship, joy, and empathy. Who wants to get rid of that stuff? No one. That is what makes human beings different from other animals.

You also worry too much about other people's opinions because you have the 'Fear of criticism'. You do not do something just because you worry about what they will think or they will criticize you. You have to get rid of this fear because there is no one who is not criticized. I will give you an example in the last of the article which will help you with this.

 2. The real question.

The question you asked was, "How to stop worrying about what others think?" But the question as per what I said before should be, "How to better manage what others think?" So that's a real question. Because it really makes sense.

Our trait of worrying about what others think comes from 2 million years ago. We humans always needed social validation. In the past, Humans lived in 'Tribes' as you may know. So, when a person did something that others don't like at all, the person is thrown out of the tribe. Then that person eventually dies when left alone. It means that every human being always craved social validation from others. 

We Humans always wanted to socialize and that is also true for today. If your so-called friends don't invite you to the party, you feel like everything is over. Like now no one will like you because you are a rejected person.

This trait of worrying about what others think of you is inbuilt in us. It is completely normal and we cannot do anything about it. 

3. How to manage what other people think?

Now you know that this trait of worrying about what others think is normal for you and you know what the real question should be. So, now let's see what is the solution.

Unlike 2 million years ago, we have an advantage that we choose our tribe. You need to choose the people or the group of people you want to care about. You need to choose the people whose opinion matters to you. It is a truth that you will always crave social validation. But what you can change is who you crave social validation from.

You have to choose and decide who are the people you want to impress and for whose opinion you should give a fuck about. Surround yourself with the people who respect you for who you are and not with the people who just try to criticize you.

You should decide that "Yes, the opinion of my family on what I do is what matters to me." You have to stop worrying about what others think. Everyone's opinions and criticisms should not matter to you or else you will either not do whatever you feel is right or will do whatever they want you to. Both these situations occur together. And these both are dangerous and can take your freedom away.

4. Have something more important.

The truth is that you care too much about what others think because you don't have something more important to care about. I learned this from the book, 'Subtle Art of not giving a Fuck' by Mark Manson. 

Just think about it in this way. A six years old boy cries for a toy he wants or if his toy is broken because he does not have something more important than the toy to care about. And you know what other thing a six-year-old kid does? Cry for ice cream. Fuck that kid.

Now, I will tell you a story that will help you get out of your fear of criticism. Suppose that a fire breaks out in a building and everybody comes out of the building except a kid. But only you know that there is a kid stuck in there. You decide to go inside the building to save the kid and become a hero. When you run inside the building, everyone will call you stupid and tell you to not do that. They will stop you from entering inside the building. But will you let the kid die just because everyone thinks that you are stupid? 

You will go and save the kid even when everyone is criticizing you because for you, saving the kid was more important than what other people think. Right? Also, even when you come out of the building as a hero, people will say, "Yeah! What a man. He is a hero."

5. They don't.

I am sorry to tell you this at the last but you will stop worrying about what others think when you will know how seldom they do. This means that sometimes you worry too much about what others will think but in reality, they don't even think of you. 

It is very simple. Maybe they are too busy in their lives and don't have time to think about what you do because they are busy fixing their own life. Or maybe it can happen that just like you, they too are busy worrying about what others think of them. It is a paradox you need to know in order to stop worrying about what others think of whatever you do.

Even if people criticize you, remember that you have a goal to achieve and not a community to impress. The society is shit. And that's the truth no one can change. Everybody is selfish and always thinks about themselves. So it is better to stop worrying about what others think just now and live a life with freedom and joy. But don't forget to care for the people you love and always remember that only their opinion matters to you.

So, Here we go. We have seen how to stop worrying about what others think. Hope you now know the answer to your question. Thank you for reading my article and if you like it then share it. Hope you got something valuable to learn from my article. 

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